Hello my wonderful blog readers,
I have been writing in this thing for 5+ years now, can you believe it?! Because I can't.
Granted I only write once a month but still, good on me for sticking with it.
If it wasn't for this blog I don't think I would ever write anything, it's a bit like being on the Music Team at church. If it wasn't for that, I probably wouldn't ever play guitar.
But I digress.
Today's blog topic is: THE WIFE LIFE (and why I love it).
Since I was up at 7am to drive my wonderful husband to work, I thought I may as well get my March Blog Entry done and dusted.
I've been married for OVER one year now.
Crazy to think how fast time has flown by.
I still remember the wedding day quite vividly, and I (and Lyndon) both stand by our belief that we never want to go through that ever again.
But marriage.
Ah yes.
Its pretty wonderful, and I'll tell you why.
Firstly let me say, even though I was 24 when I got married, I did not feel like I was too young for it. I felt it was the right time for Lyndon and I to make that decision.
To be completely honest, we probably should have had a shorter engagement and gotten married in 2014, but it didn't happen that way and we can't change it now.
I love our wedding date, it has meaning to us, so in the end I'm okay that we waited til 2015.
For some people though, maybe marriage isn't for them right now.
But it definitely is for Lyndon and myself.
I love being married!!!!
When I was engaged I felt very unsettled and unfulfilled.
I told Lyndon this quite often.
I didn't like my flat very much and didn't really want to live there.
I wanted to live with Lyndon!
I spent almost all my time at Lyndon's house, I didn't have enough money to buy groceries so Lyndon just bought them for me and I ate basically every meal with him at his place.
It was a very uneasy time.
Once we were married, all these issues just went away.
We were finally living together, and it was really easy.
For the FIRST TIME in my life, I had a whole house to myself to decorate however I wanted, to keep clean and tidy, to organise, to be the boss over.
It was the best feeling.
Not only that, but I got to see my favourite person in the whole entire world EVERY SINGLE DAY regardless of what we were both doing.
That was the biggest bonus.
Even if we were both off at work all day and even if we had social events on in the evening, I would see him eventually, because he slept in the same bed as me.
Surprisingly the whole 'sharing a bed' thing was quite easy for me to adjust too as well, and that's saying a lot because I NEVER SHARED MY BED!
After a year all these feelings have not changed.
I love sharing my space with only one other person.
I really didn't enjoy flatting by the time my good friends Joella, Katie and Xanda had all left Dunedin, so moving in with Lyndon was well overdue.
The thing I really feel like screaming from a mountain is:
I LOVE BEING A WIFE!
Even a HOUSE WIFE!
I love cooking dinners, planning meals out, going grocery shopping, cleaning the kitchen, vacuuming the whole entire house, organising the bookshelves, wiping down everything in the bathroom, making the bed, washing clothes, folding laundry, putting things in their rightful spots.
Keeping the house running like a well-oiled machine.
Its so satisfying!
I guess you could say I'm a quintessential housewife, AND I'M OKAY WITH THAT!
I grew up in a kind of chaotic house where things were messy and the kitchen often looked like a bomb had gone off (not really my Mum's fault having three messy guys in the house, and it was impossible for me to keep it clean so I stopped trying)
But it made me really hate mess.
So with my own home, I keep it really tidy and that makes me feel better about life.
I also work at the Cafe sorta part-time, sorta full-time sometimes. It is what it is.
I enjoy my work at the Cafe too. It's a lot of the same stuff I do at home (clearing away dishes, wiping down tables, getting things for people).
It also leaves me enough time to do all my housework which is ideal.
The thing that makes being a wife so awesome for me though is the fact that my HUSBAND is so flipping cool.
He helps me with almost all my house-wifey duties. (ALMOST)
We have always gone grocery shopping together on a Saturday morning, and to be honest, it's a time that I really really enjoy.
He doesn't like writing the grocery list out so much, but once we're at the store, I think we both really love it. I'm getting good mothering practice in when Lyndon asks if we can get something we don't need and I have to say no. Bahaha. (Although a lot of the time I just say yes, since he works so hard).
Lyndon helps me put laundry out on the washing line, take it in, and we often spend Sunday afternoons folding it and putting it in baskets while watching TV. (I recommend this).
Fun fact: Lyndon is better at folding washing than I am. Go figure?????
We almost always cook dinner together, although sometimes I enjoy doing it all on my own. And usually after I've worked a 9 hour shift, I can't actually stand anymore so Lyndon has to cook by himself.
I am so grateful that he is willing and quite happy to do this though.
I have the best husband.
While Lyndon doesn't usually do any cleaning around the house, I'm actually completely okay with this. I am faster and more thorough as a dish washer, and I feel like that vacuuming and cleaning the bathroom is easy enough to do on my own.
I love being a wife and being able to provide a nice clean house for my husband, and its good practice for when we finally start having children.
I love going out for dinner or lunch with him, just talking about whatever, or going away on trips.
We don't go out very often because we'd rather save our money, but when we do its always a good time!
It's good that we both enjoy staying in a lot of the time, because we're both tired from working and just want to chill out.
It also helps that we're both gamers, so we can spend hours playing video games together.
A couple that games together, stays together.
We have a bunch of really awesome couple-friends (friends who are also a couple).
Hanging out in a big group is great because it just makes it more fun and casual.
I'd recommend this!
Recently Lyndon and I have been dealing with some really heavy and adult stuff, but we're getting through all the uncertainty and stress and I'm just trying to be there for him.
He can't drive for a year so his mum and I have become his personal chauffeurs, but I try not to let this get me down or annoyed or anything like that.
It's not his fault he can't drive so I wouldn't want him to feel worse about it.
Even though things aren't always easy in life, I feel a lot better knowing that the man I have chosen to spend it with is such a terrific person.
He is honestly so helpful and so hard working and I just feel so lucky.
I will never take him for granted, because I hear about other people's husbands and it just makes it more clear how lucky I got with mine!
Not everyone can have a husband like Lyndon.
Its good to keep this in mind when they've done something to piss you off (and trust me, this happens every so often)
I love being a wife, not because I get to live in a house with just us and clean to my hearts content, but because being a wife to such a wonderful man makes my life better.
Thanks for reading, and hopefully my next blog post is a little funnier and less about home-making.
Hahaha.
