22 January 2014

My Life In Scarfieville






Hey Blog-readers!

I haven't written a blog in what seems like forever.
I keep meaning to. And then I don't.

Wow cool story.



I said I would write about my time living in the Slums of Dunedin, so here it is.


Ever since I moved to Dunedin back in '09 I have lived in North Dunedin.
My first year Hall of Residence (Carrington College) was in North Dunedin, and I never moved out of the area (apart from my brief stint in Mornington) UNTIL THIS YEAR.

But more on that later.


North Dunedin is the place of students. During my first few years in Dunedin I never left my North Dunedin bubble. I had my flat / University / Town. I never went outside of this area. IN FACT I never ventured into the other suburbs until I was in the end of my 3rd year.

I have talked to people about this and its actually very common for students to not know anything aside from North Dunedin.


I'm not really sure where I'm going with this blog..

I think I've forgotten how to effectively write blog posts... WHOOPS!

That's what happens when you stop doing something for ages, YOU LOSE YOUR ABILITIES!


Oh dear.



I don't really know where to go from here.

Okay, I have an idea. I will quickly summarise all the different flats I had during my time in Scarfieville, what I learned etc. and we can call it a day.



FLAT ONE: My first year ever flatting was in an 100+ year old house on Dundas Street.
Your quintessential Scarfie flat. 5 bedroom. 1 bathroom. 1 toilet (oh dear). Complete with grassy backyard and EXTEMELY LOUD NEIGHBOURS WHO ARE BREAKING THAT LAW ABOUT HOUSES BEING A CERTAIN DISTANCE AWAY FROM EACH OTHER.

This flat was definitely a learning experience. It was freezing cold. No insulation whatsoever. Extremely high ceilings so you couldn't heat them up. OH MY GOSH. I remember running up and down the hallway screaming because I was so cold.

Good times.

We even had a token stray cat who hung around our house and we eventually started feeding. We named him Mow (my flatmate studied Chinese and named it).
Anyway, Mow was really scared but I hung out at the flat a lot studying and what not. I fed Mow everyday and eventually he let me stroke him.
He was eventually run over or killed in some other way. We never saw him again.

Pretty gutting.

Everyone should experience the horror of cheap un-insulated, blistering cold Dunedin flats at least once. My first year flat was just that.

The neighbours were very rowdy, constantly having parties, couch fires etc.
I somehow managed to get the numbers of the guys who lived next door and always played their instruments late at night. I sent many a passive-aggressive text asking them to please stop playing music after midnight.
They were always nice about it and would in fact stop.

What good guys.


I should have invested in earplugs but I never did.






FLAT TWO: A bit of an upgrade from the first flat, my second flat was just up the road on Dundas Street. I got my cousin Emil and friend Tim to physically carry all my stuff to my new flat from the old one. What good friends!!!!
This flat was also 5 bedroom, two bathrooms and two toilets (YAY AN UPGRADE INDEED!)

This flat, known as 'The Gables' was at this time the hotspot for all the Elim crew. We had people like Mark Procter and Jaimee Northcott as neighbours so there were always tons of people around.

It was in this flat that I discovered sometimes, as an introvert, you have to remove yourself from social situations even if people kinda think you are rude for doing it.

I would spend many an afternoon alone in my room. I watched the entire first, second and third seasons of The OC when I lived at The Gables.

It was nice having a two story house, my room was significantly warmer.
It was also handy having two bathrooms.

I never once used the downstairs shower.

I should have done it, just to prove a point. Dang it.

No backyard or grass, there was a tree right outside but they cut down most of it. Oh, there was a deck! The deck was cool.


This flat was much quieter but there were still couch burnings happening on Dundas Street and you would walk past vomit and broken glass on a regular basis.




FLAT THREE: Before we get to my 3rd flat, which I moved into halfway through my 4th year, I'd like to indicate that after two years flatting, I was SICK OF IT. So I managed to get myself a room boarding with a family in Mornington (who are now known as my surrogate parents).
My time in Mornington was very idyllic and I really really loved it. I would never have chosen to leave, but sadly the house was put up for sale so my surrogate parents moved into a much smaller house and I couldn't go with them.

Thankfully I managed to find another flat with my good friends Joella and Katie on Mackenzie Street, just outside of Fatty Lane on Great King street. A famous Scarfie street. You would have to walk past a number of fast food outlets on your way to and from Uni/Town.

There was many a Yilmahz pizza/kebab purhcased by me during that time. For Katie and Joella it was more like KFC. I don't like fast food.


Mackenzie Street was pretty cool. Off street parking, 6 bedroom, 2 bathroom, 1 toilet (I'M SORRY, WHAAAAT?!?!?!). I was so thankful it was just the three of us living in a 6 person flat. We had a guest bedroom which was fun, the other two bedrooms were locked and full of the landlord's stuff.

It was a reasonably warm flat.

No backyard or grass.

OH MY GOODNESS THOUGH. CAN MACKENZIE STREET PARTY OR WHAT?!?!! Its a complex of flats so EVERYONE KNOWS EVERYONE AND EVERYONE LIKES TO PARTY.

No couch fires though, good job guys.

Should have invested in earplugs, but still didn't.






FLAT FOUR: Agnew Street. What can even be said about Agnew Street?
Its such a special place, in the heart of Scarfieville. So many sounds. There's Arana across the street, you can hear all of Clyde Street and St. David's Street. Ah. Such a wonderful place.


I finally invested in earplugs and BOY did I need them!!!

Wish I had done it sooner.

And don't even get me started on the couch burnings.
Almost everyone's cars down the street got flat tyres from the couch tacs scattered everywhere after an especially vigorous couch torching.
My car didn't have any flat tyres. And then, one day, it did. And after I replaced the tyre (aka- Lyndon replaced the tyre) and he took it in for a WOF, the car people discovered there were three more tacs in the tyre not causing any problems but just chilling in the tyre nonetheless.

Oh Agnew Street.

My friends all laughed when I told them I was living there. It is well known as a "Party Street". And "Everyone knows everyone and becomes really close".
I met a few guys during O-Week and then never again after that.

I think the street saw my flat as "The Nana's"
We never went out partying, and clearly didn't appreciate the lunatics who at one point thought it was a good idea to climb on our roof.

*Sigh*

Agnew Street.


The flat itself was hilarious.
Warm, though not insulated. Walls like paper mache from the layers and layers of wallpaper.
Walls, ceilings, shelves, windowsills and doors that didn't seem to line up.
So much character!!!!!

After two years I finally had a nice grassy backyard again AND a porch. Oooooh porch!
I like porches.

You can sit on your porch and people can't say nothing about it. My first flat had a porch as well, I never mentioned that.

This flat had 5 bedroom, 1 bathroom, 2 toilets (technically 1, the other 1 was outside in the "Shed" aka Wash-house).

Not as bad as first year flatting, having only 1 toilet between 5 people is horrific.

ps- Halfway through the year some hooligans stole our street sign, so for the rest of the year our street was unmarked. That is just an example of the kind of people who live around that area..










I think I'm done.
I only have a few pictures which are all from Agnew Street. I have other pictures of the other flats obviously but I can't be bothered finding them right now.



What a random blog. I hope it was somewhat entertaining.

This year I am living OUT OF SCARFIEVILLE! YAAAAAAY!!!!
And hopefully next year I will move out to the 'burbs again.

North Dunedin does not count as the 'burbs. It counts as the Ghetto.

That is all :)



xx


04 December 2013

Birthday Episode II : What Happened



I'm back again only two days after my last blog entry.


My birthday yesterday was definitely unlike any other birthday I'd ever had.



As I discussed, I tried really hard to not have any expectations and just enjoy Happy Tuesday.
It was my first birthday ever while being in a relationship with someone (which means Lyndon had planned to take me to a fancy restaurant for dinner).

Unfortunately, this was not to be.

Early in the morning, Lyndon went to the Emergency Room to try and get some pain relief for these abscesses that had been growing under his right arm. The people at the hospital told him he'd need surgery.


I woke up at 7:30am-ish to texts from Lyndon telling me that he would be getting surgery.
Naturally, I freaked out.

It sounded almost like a joke.

Surgery - on MY BIRTHDAY?!

Surely not!



But unfortunately a phone call from Lyndon confirmed that it was true.

I cried a lot.

I called my parents to ask my Dad about the procedure (he's a GP) and he basically told me that I should cancel all my plans for the day and go to Lyndon in the hospital.


I cried some more. Mostly because I was looking forward to spending time with Lyndon and now he was in the hospital. I wanted to be there for him but at the same time it was my special day and I wanted to spend it doing fun stuff with friends. Many conflicting emotions. More crying.

I ended up having the wonderful cooked breakfast made for me by my lovely flatmates and friends Joella and Xanda. It was delicious!

I then got dressed and ready to go see Lyndon in the hospital. I asked my cousin Emil to come with me and he said he would, so I waited for him to arrive.

Before Emil showed up, Lyndon informed me he was going in for the surgery.

I spent the morning wandering around town with Emil, I bought some dresses, which was fun. And Emil stumbled across a DVD sale at Marbecks so we spent some time looking at DVD's. He also bought me Creme Soda, my favourite drink in the whole world. It made me feel a bit better.


When Lyndon texted me telling me he was out of surgery Emil and I went to see him.


After a little while we went to my birthday lunch at Nando's where Floris, Huei, Xanda, Aimee and Emil all had lunch with me. I had a great time, but all the while I was still feeling quite upset about Lyndon being in the hospital.

Aimee made me a pumpkin pie, so after lunch we dropped it off at my flat and then I went to the hospital again.


I stayed with Lyndon for a while.

Once he had been discharged from hospital I got dropped off back at my flat. I cried some more.

By this time it was obvious Lyndon and I would not get to go out for the dinner I had been so excited about.
The reservation was cancelled.

I texted some friends, hoping that they would hang out with me around dinner time, and thankfully they came through for me.



After lying in the sun with Joella for a bit, she, Emil and I went down to Pita Pit where Dani, Chloe and Tim met us. Kim and James showed up a little while later.

We all got pitas for dinner and sat in the sun and ate them. It was nice.


After dinner I went to see Lyndon again and got my very own birthday cheesecake which was super sugary. I ate it.


Lyndon had made me a photo frame for my birthday, which I initially joked he was making me (If I was a builder I would make people photo frames for presents).


Overall, it wasn't a terrible day.



I really want to genuinely thank all the people that spent time with me.

Joella, Xanda, Emil, Chloe, Dani, Kim, Huei, Floris, James, Aimee and Tim.


My day wouldn't have been any fun without you, and you guys are the reason it wasn't the worst birthday ever.


I also want to thank everyone for their kind words and birthday wishes throughout the day, especially those that were praying for Lyndon to get better. It meant a lot and I really appreciated it.



Another birthday done for the year. Here's hoping your loved ones don't end up in hospital on your special day, but if they do, I hope you can make the most of it like I tried to do.


God bless you guys.



My day in pictures:






02 December 2013

Birthday Pressure




Tomorrow is a big day for me.

At the same time, it is not a big day for me.

For some, it is an important day.

For most, it is just another day.

And for those people who happen to share their date of birth with me, it is meant to be a special day.



But it isn't always special.

And there's nothing in the Rules of the World that say it has to be special.


I've been thinking about it the past few days, and your birthday actually carries a lot of pressure.
At least for me it does.



It's meant to be this momentous occasion where everyone says nice things to you and gives you stuff.

But for someone else, it's just another day.

They don't care that it's your birthday, and that actually isn't a crime.


I know I don't always care when there is a person who I have lost touch with and Facebook tells me it's their birthday. I don't say anything. I'm busy with my own stuff.
For them, it's their special day.
But for me, its just a Thursday, or a Friday, or whatever day it is.


A friend of mine once told me that she often deletes her friends from Facebook on their birthday, based on the fact that if she doesn't want to wish them a happy birthday, they probably shouldn't be on her friends list. I can't say I disagree with her logic and have been guilty of deleting people on their birthdays as well.
Harsh I know, but sometimes it pops up and you're like: "Who the heck is this person?" *delete*.

I wouldn't hold it against anyone if they did the same thing to me.




My birthdays have always been equally the best and worst days of the year.


Their is a lot of EXPECTATION.

As a child, I had too many expectations.

Things never went the way I wanted them to.

People wouldn't wish me a happy birthday and I would feel dejected.

I wouldn't get any presents from anyone.

My mum would go out to a horse show and leave me alone at the house to cook dinner for the family.


There's just so much PRESSURE to have a good day.

Everyone who wishes you a happy birthday also tells you to have a good day.

It's hard to have a good day when no one really cares that it's your birthday - it's just another day.



The change in my perception on birthdays came last year when I turned 22.

I used to be the person that waltzed around telling everyone it was my birthday so they felt forced to notice me and say happy birthday to me. I would tell my brothers that it was MY RIGHT to get all these perks (like choosing what tv show we would watch/food we would eat/which seat in the car I got to sit in) because it was my birthday.

But last year I tried a different tactic. I didn't tell anyone it was my birthday. I just enjoyed the day, dubbing it "Happy Monday" and "Monday Martz Day", because my birthday was on a Monday that year.

Calling it "Happy Monday" relieved it of all the birthday pressure. I had a good day just because it was a good day. I surrounded myself with good friends and just enjoyed their company.
I didn't expect that much.
I took what I got.
I went with the flow of the day.

It was my best birthday ever.





Tomorrow is "Happy Tuesday". I am trying my best not to have too many expectations. On the one hand, it is my special day, but on the other, for many people, it is just a Tuesday and I can't expect them to care.
And that's okay.


I am looking forward to spending time with friends.

Aimee is making me a pumpkin pie, and Lyndon has been building something for me and my curiosity concerning that is in itself a bit of a present.
I don't know what to expect!

But whatever happens, I know that my birthday doesn't have to be the best day of the year.

It's just another day when I get a few more texts than usual and my Facebook wall has a little more activity.

I don't expect presents from anyone, but like I have said before, people are welcome to donate to my new guitar fund if they would like to get me a little somthin' somethin'. But don't feel obliged to at all.




I have enjoyed being 22.

A lot of awesome things happened.

And I'm sure I'll have a good day tomorrow, not just because it's my birthday, but because I have so many awesome people around me who make everyday a good day.








This is me at my 22nd birthday party hosted by my friends Chloe, Heidi, Olivia, Lily and Joe <3