My Boyfriend Isn't Whipped

Hi Blog,

I've got some time to kill before I make pizza for dinner so I thought I would take a stab at writing a blog post. Not sure how it's going to turn out but let's just see how we go.

The topic I have chosen for today is pretty self-explanatory.

I really don't believe that my boyfriend is whipped.

Before Lyndon came into my life, I was THAT PERSON who always made fun of the whipped boyfriends.

Growing up I mainly befriended guys, and eventually, they would get themselves girlfriends. I would then make it my mission to inform them if they were whipped. I didn't say if they were, I would just make the very loud whipping noise if they ever mentioned something that they had done/were going to do for their girlfriends.

Sometimes they would tell me how they had to leave to pick up their girlfriend from across town *whip noise* or they couldn't hang out with our friend group because they were hanging out with their girlfriend instead *whip noise* or maybe I'd be talking to my friend (whose a girl) about what she made her boyfriend do *whip noise*

I like using the whip noise, okay?!!?

But now that I am in a relationship, my whole perspective on what it means to be whipped has totally changed.

As I write this, I am racking my brain trying to think of who it was who was "the most whippiest of whipped guys I have ever met". I gave someone this title but now I can't even remember who it is...

DANG IT!

Maybe I'll ask around. Or maybe if you are reading this and you remember me saying this about someone, could you let me know who it is? Hahahaha. I usually have an excellent memory but I guess I didn't see any point to remembering this one little fact.

Looking at being whipped on a broader scale, I have been asking myself: What does it mean to be whipped?

As always, I like to look at the dictionary definition. And since 'whipped' is well and truly a colloquial expression, I have turned to my favourite website for word definitions: URBAN DICTIONARY.

The urban dictionary refers to 'whipped' as: being completely controlled by your girlfriend or boyfriend...in most cases a guy being completely controlled by his girlfriend.

Hmmm. So being whipped is all about CONTROL.

I do recall that with most of my guy friends, who were the chilled ones not the super intense ones in the relationship (like with Lyndon and me), they weren't exactly "controlled" by their girlfriends but they certainly did things to make them happy which made it SEEM like they were whipped.

But like I mentioned earlier, my perspective has changed.

The other night I was talking to some people about Lyndon being whipped.

I vehemently disagree with the claims that Lyndon is whipped, even though he agrees that he is (but he blatantly isn't) I'll explain why.

Here are two scenarios, one where the guy is whipped, the other where the guy is just being a loving boyfriend who is actually very thoughtful and should be praised for his actions not ridiculed.

SCENARIO 1:

Martz: My car is covered in bird poo it's soooooo gross

Lyndon: Oh true. 

Martz: Do you know of a carwash where I can take it to get washed? OH NO WAIT! YOU SHOULD TOTALLY WASH IT FOR ME? Can you wash it for me okay thanks Lyndon!

*runs off*

*runs back*

Martz: Oh and BY THE WAY if you could also take it for a WOF while you have it that would be just SUPER! Okay byeeeeeeee

*runs off again*

If Lyndon washes Martz' car and takes it for a WOF, he is pretty much whipped.

SCENARIO 2:

 Martz: My car is covered in bird poo it's soooooo gross

Lyndon: Oh true. 

Martz: Do you know of a carwash where I can take it to get washed?

Lyndon: Oh don't worry about that, I can wash it for you

Martz: Are you sure? That's so nice. I would really appreciate that.

*While Lyndon has the car he sneakily takes it for WOF without Martz knowing about it*

In this second situation, Lyndon is not whipped. Martz didn't even ask him to wash her car, he volunteered. He also took the car for a WOF without being asked.

HE IS NOT WHIPPED! HE IS A NICE PERSON!

If you didn't know already, Scenario 2 actually happened.

A friend from work described "whipped" as when a guy ditches his friends to hang out with his missus. I guess that makes sense.

I never want to be that person that asks Lyndon to ditch his friends for me, but there have been some times when he has preferred to come and hang out with me rather than his other friends. But again, I don't think this is him being whipped.

I genuinely like spending time with him because he is my best friend, I don't want to control him and make him spend time with me. If he doesn't want to then he doesn't have to, but I think if you asked him he would probably tell you the same thing I did.

Balancing your friends and your relationship is tricky, but I think what could help is having a better understanding of what it's like for both parties. I have been on both sides of the argument.

I have been the friend who gets ditched by the guy who is supposedly whipped, and I have also been the person who the guy who is supposedly whipped ditches his friends for.

I THINK the moral of the story is not to be too quick to judge people and thinking you know more about their relationship than you actually do.

I won't be going around making the whipped noise anymore, because I know how it feels when people call you or your significant other whipped when they aren't.

Lyndon likes to just go with it, he even tells people he is whipped.

But I stand by the fact that he isn't.

He's just a good guy.

Feel free to comment below on what your thoughts and opinions are on being whipped.

Thanks for reading! xx